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Why I think my 30s rock?

A woman in her 30s happy in a sunflower farm

Why I think my 30s rock?

It’s been a few years since I crossed 30s. I still remember the eve of my 30th Birthday. I was forever looking at the clock, as if hypnotizing time into standing still. The reason: I didn’t want to cross over. Thirties seemed ominous. It was like leaving behind one more chapter of the precious childhood. Thirty meant I was over the hill. Oh, the simplicity of an immature mind!

But nothing changed. The time didn’t take any heed of my requests. Thankfully. So here I am, well in my mid-thirties and loving it. Let me tell you why 30s are better than 20s or even teenage, for that matter.

I am vain, no longer – Most of my adolescence and then the twenties were spent before the mirror trying to find out the zillion faults with my facial features (isn’t my nose a little bulbous, my lips could have been a little fuller, if only I had big eyes and fair alabaster skin) and body. Every morning, I woke up and looked at my face for new zits, and groaned in agony  to find new ones having sprung up. Now, even a face full of these things fail to bother me, at all. I can step out without any lipstick, or worse still, without washing my sticky, oily face and care two hoots about it. I have got more pressing issues to take care of, you see.

I love my body – So I am no longer as thin as I was in my twenties. But the best thing is I don’t agonize it over anymore. I love my curves; big butt, love handles, paunch and those flabby thighs. I no longer stand on the weighing scale and fake a heart attack every time I find the weight taking a right turn. What’s more, I don’t mind my stretch marks, laugh lines, gray hair and wrinkles around the eyes as well. They are the telltale signs of experience and growing up.

I exercise and eat well – In my twenties, I took my health and body for granted. Those were times for indulging in dietary fads and then sudden binging. And exercise, well they were more of a hobby than a serious attempt to be fit. In my 30s, I have realized the importance of exercising and eating well.

I please people no more – That was a terrible decade. I realize now that my whole existence centered on pleasing people, to go out of my way to be extra nice to them and make sure everything was hunky-dory between us. In my thirties, I have realized my worth and those of others as well. I know my mind and don’t hesitate to speak it out as well. Relationships are important to me, but not at the cost of my self-esteem. Said that, I have lost some friends. Fairweather, as they say!

I am accountable to no one – Whoa, I love this bit. No parents forever asking me ‘where are you going’ or ‘when you will be back’. I enjoy my freedom. And given that I have more responsibilities, I love taking my own decisions.

I know where I am – In the twenties, there were a lot of ‘whys’, ‘hows’ and ‘whens’. Fortunately, most of these got answered in my 30s. I found myself married (the long dark days of pining over lost loves and waiting by the telephone for that call that never came, were behind me), having a child and working from home (out of choice). Life doesn’t seem complicated and bumpy. I am confident and happy with my choices. The future doesn’t hold much mystery and scare me anymore.

I am the superwoman – Being a wife and a mother make me feel as I have super powers. Also, my daughter’s life revolves around me; she thinks I am a superwoman. Though I don’t come from Krypton and certainly can’t fly, I can still amaze my little one. Don’t I just love this feeling!

But of course, everything comes at a price. Though I am in a more comfortable and happy space in my life, I have lost a thing or two. The most I regret losing are my rose-colored glasses, the innocence and the enthusiasm. But then, one can’t have it all, can one?

My advice. Don’t be afraid of the big 3-0. If at all, being in your 30s will do you a whole world of good. Trust me!

Very soon, I will writing a post on how it feels to be a woman in 40s!!

Matured woman in 30s enjoying wind in her hand

Why I think my 30s rock?

Matured woman in 30s enjoying waves at the beach

Why I think my 30s rock?

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18 Comments

  1. Though I am not there yet I am still kinda scared of crossing the 30 mark!! This post is relieving 🙂

  2. I love it totally and really the freedom you can enjoy at 30s is amazing. “I please people no more ” best takeaway ;)keep writing.Enjoy your 30s

  3. great post. 30s is great..freedom , decision making ..everything. “I please people no more “Loved it..Keep writing and enjoy your 30s

  4. This is how I felt after crossing over the 40s. Now, in my mid-forties, I take better care of myself, am totally emotionally independent and know well who and what needs my attention and a space in my mind, and who and what needs to be thrown out of my mind to make more space for some creative imagination!
    Age does teach us a lot, isn’t it? Age, and yes, LIFE, too! 🙂

    • mammaspeaks

      In your 20s, you can still get away with being indulgent and not caring about your health, but you start feeling the pinch once you enter the thirties or mid-thirties. 40s is when you can leave it no more to fate and start taking care of your health. I am sure 40s would be a beautiful decade where I will gain more wisdom and confidence. I agree with you Shilpa, age does teach us a lot ! 🙂

  5. Lovely post and I echo most of your thoughts. Now that I have entered the 40s I feel even more empowered.

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Balaka! Very soon I will be entering 40s too and a few years later, I shall be writing a post on my 40s. Can’t wait for it! 🙂

  6. I loved reading this. This is exactly where I stand now!! Yayy to 30ss?

  7. Loved reading this. This is exactly where I stand now!! Yayy to 30ss!!

  8. Hi, Anshu, it feels good to read you after a long time. Very well said that relationships are important, but not at the cost of own self-esteem.

    • mammaspeaks

      Hi Ravish, it feels to connect after a long time, it was in the last AtoZ right. Glad you you could relate to my point of view. 🙂

  9. All excellent reasons! 30s rock because we still have youth, but now also have wisdom.
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  10. You! Right there!! Yes, you, the writer of this blog… feels like I wrote this blog and I don’t remember when. Being in the same age group as you, I can relate to each word you have written here. 30s gives you the freedom from mental and physical shackles that we build around ourselves.

    I wish I’d turned 30 some 10 years back 😛
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    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Purnima, I am glad my post resonated with you. I guess we build mental and physical shackles around us ourselves which take a long time jumping over. I will be turning 40, let’s see what I learn in this new decade.

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