My earliest memory dates back to when I was 3 years old. In spite of living in a joint family, I can clearly see my mom in it. Most kids like me will have their mom in their first memories. And, why not! After all, it’s the mother a newborn sees the first. It’s the mother who feeds her cleans her, makes her sleep, teaches her and shapes her. No wonder, a mom is the one person who everyone aspires to be.
I know I do. Since a very young age, I’d want to be like my mother, who selflessly gives. She wakes up before the entire household, cooks for everyone and still is the last person to eat. As the eldest child, I have seen her sacrifices and her tears. And though we hurt her, ignore her…she doesn’t hold any grudge. Does the world hold any other person who would do the same for us? Neither our darling spouse, nor our precious children.
Even in the Indian mythology, we have learnt about the great mothers. Yashoda who raised Krishna like her own child. Or, let’s talk about Keyikeyi, who we might vilify, but what she did was for her son. Or Gandhari who, though knew her son was in the wrong, took off her blindfold so that she could bless her son with eternal powers. While mothers in the real world might not boast of such superhuman powers, what they do is unparalleled.
As I said, my first inspiration remains my mother. Her devotion to her children is matchless. But today, I want to talk about other mothers too who I have been lucky enough to come across in my life.
One is a very close and dear friend. She got married very early, while she was still studying, and within a year she delivered her first child. But with pregnancy, she continued studying. And while her baby was taking her first steps, she was taking her first steps as a college lecturer. She managed home, baby and work efficiently. Within a few years she had her second child, but she continued working. She continued studying for her doctorate program. Today, she holds a Ph.D, she is a college professor, has two beautiful kids, and a lovely home. But, nothing had been offered to her on the platter. She has worked, and worked hard. She learns Kathak with her daughter, she participates in every college event and dances on all 9 nights of Navratri. She balanced motherhood with personal growth and development beautifully. And that’s what makes her an inspiring mom for me!
The other inspiring mother is my lovely neighbour. On meeting her, I got to know that she was an IAS aspirant. But, when she got married, she was asked to stop her studies and concentrate on her family instead. With two daughters coming early into the marriage, she concentrated all her energies and efforts on her. She did the entire household work, took her daughters from one class to another, and looked after their studies. Only when the daughters joined college and became independent, she resumed her studies. And today, she holds a doctorate degree in Food Science and Nutrition, and works in the capacity of Deputy Director in a Govt. Of India recognized, NABL accredited food and water testing laboratory in a reputed women’s university in Mumbai.
And lastly, I want to talk about my house help. A lady who is my age and has 5 children. For the want of a male child, her family made her give birth to 4 daughters and abort 2. A good-for-nothing husband, she does household work and tries to make ends meet. She doesn’t own a single gold piece of jewellery, wears old or donated clothes, borrows heavily but still makes her kids study.
A mother may be educated or not, may belong to a different socioeconomic class, but her children will still remain her number one priority. She makes us what we are…and she loves us as we are!!
This post is a part of #Momspiration stories published on mycity4kids.com.