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My Word of the Year 2019: ME

My word of the year 2019 is ME. Find out about this little project that I am working on. It is called the Project Me. Also, learn the 5 rules of Project Me. #firsttimemommy #newyeargoals #woty2019 #selfcaretips #selfcaregoals

Word of the year 2019 - Me

I am participating in the word of the year challenge hosted by Corinne of Everyday Gyaan. I am supposed to pick up one word that I aspire to be or follow and that will propel me forward in the new year. I choose – ME. Don’t be surprised. I know it’s a pronoun. But it’s still a word, the last time I checked in my Oxford Dictionary. So why did I choose ME as my word of the year (WOTY) when there are a million beautiful words (which are not pronouns) out there? Let me tell you.

As a small child, my whole life and my parents’ revolved around ‘I’. As I grew up, I changed into WE, because you know how important it is to be a part of a team and work as one. Marriage and motherhood changed the We into YOU.

What will you eat for dinner today?

Aren’t you feeling well today?

Don’t you worry, I will take care of the chore!



I am someone’s wife, mother, daughter and sister, but what happened to the woman – ME? Where is she? So, you see I got lost in the labyrinths of domesticity and all that remained was YOU. I realise I am not ‘me’, but the sum total of people’s expectations.

In 2019, I will be turning 40, and I think it’s a good enough time to rediscover myself. If I don’t act now, I will become one more Sisyphus who will be living the life of absurd.

My word of the year 2019 is ME. Find out about this little project that I am working on. It is called the Project Me. Also, learn the 5 rules of Project Me. #firsttimemommy #newyeargoals #woty2019 #selfcaretips #selfcaregoals

Word of the year 2019 – Me

And that’s why I have thought of working on this little project which I am calling the Project Me. And these are the 5 Rules of Project Me.

 I will love myself. As I am. The whole life I have been taught to think about others first, to selflessly love others first. How will I love someone if I don’t love myself first?

 I will not neglect myself whatever might be the circumstance.

 I will respect myself, accept myself and forgive myself.

 I will not be a pushover.

 I will be my favourite person. The first time I had heard someone saying ‘I am my favourite person’, I had thought what an arrogant person! But on hindsight, he was not wrong.

My word of the year 2019 is ME. Find out about this little project that I am working on. It is called the Project Me. Also, learn the 5 rules of Project Me. #firsttimemommy #newyeargoals #woty2019 #selfcaretips #selfcaregoals

Word of the year 2019 – Me

Do you think I am being selfish? Do you it’s too ambitious a project? Well, could be. But after working on various projects over the years, Project Me makes perfect sense. Also, after four decades on this planet, I at least deserve to be ME.

22 Comments

  1. Very well written, Anshu. As you said, even I used to think it was narcissistic and selfish to put yourself first. But truth can not be farther from it.
    The truth is – yes, the universe does not revolve around me but at the same time, for me there is no point of the universe if I am not there in it. Is there?
    And keeping me happy is nobody’s responsibility but my own. Same applies to everyone.
    Love yourself first, because you can’t love anyone else till you learn to love yourself first.
    Love your woty, Anshu.
    Cheers! Rock the year, 2019!

    • mammaspeaks

      Well put, Priya, there is no point of the universe if I am not there in it. If I am happy, people around me will be happy. So it is not all that selfish now, is it? 🙂

      Thanks Priya for liking my word. Hope to see your WOTY too!

  2. Perfect word.There can never be enough of self love Anshu. And stay your favourite person always! Teach the same to your little one too. Good luck think you will soar my girl!

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Akshata! I agree with you there can never be enough of self love. The next time someone asks me who is your favourite person, without batting my eyelid, I am going to say it’s me. And yes, will teach that to my daughter too. Love <3

  3. It is definitely not selfish! It was my word of the year in 2018 and I learnt so much about myself. I grew in awareness and confidence. I wish you lots of love and learning and being this year!

    • mammaspeaks

      Oh really.. Wow sunita. Am glad I picked up this word and hope to stay true to it. I need those two things too. Will work upon them. Wish you a fabulous year too !!

  4. Way to go di….👏👏👏👏🤗

  5. Very well written, Anshu. As you said, even I used to think it was narcissistic and selfish to put yourself first

  6. The change from ‘ME’ to ‘YOU’ resonates with every woman, married or single. But I have always believed that loving yourself doesn’t mean selfish, as is the norm in our society. Loving myself means taking care of myself physically, emotionally, and mentally. And until I do this, I can’t love others unconditionally. If others are rude to me, speak loudly with me, I forgive them and don’t respond in the same manner. Because I love myself, my peace of mind. And I think that’s TRUE LOVE.
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    • mammaspeaks

      Shivangi, love the clarity of your thoughts. If others are rude to me, I forgive them. That needs an evolved mind. I am currently reading Osho and that’s what he is saying. It makes sense. Why let others bother you! Just be concerned with yourself. Live for yourself and let others live.

      Thank you for commenting!! 🙂

  7. Great choice, Anshu and I love how you explained it. Project Me sounds wonderful.

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Corinne for hosting the WOTY. It was fun and gave me some introspection time too!

  8. Great WOTY, Anshu. Loved the post.

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Meena. Welcome back dear! Hope to see you writing too soon!

  9. More power to you for this self love Anshu and no you are not being selfish or any such thing!

    We often tend to neglect ourselves and collect so much regret and resentment in the bargain – this is a great way to ensure that doesnt happen.

    A happier you means a happier family!!
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    • Hi Shalini, it feels so great to know that there are so many women bloggers who feel it that way. I guess we tend to give ourselves so much that down the lane we feel burnt out. And that’s where these thoughts emerge from. Glad to have you by my side.

      Thanks so much!

  10. ME is the best word you chose, Anshu! In fact, I think we women need to chose this word every year! We really lose ourselves somewhere down the line as we look after our families and their needs. And, then, one fine day, when we are on the threshold of midlife, we realise we don’t even know ourselves! Our likes, our moods, our happiness, our sorrow, our stories–they all get buried under everything else.
    I am so happy you chose this word! Take real good care of yourself, dear girl! For, you are the only one who will be with you always!
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    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Shilpa, you don’t know how nice, warm and loved it feels to have so many women who think along the same lines as you and who urge you and motivate you. You are right, it’s only when you are closer to midlife that you get this identity crisis – this deep void that tells you that you have completed half your life and not taken care of yourself. If not now, when will you?

      Thanks again <3

  11. Me is a lovely word. Love yourself unconditionally
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    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Anouradha. Yes, this is what I am going to do this year. Love myself unconditionally and place myself first. Thanks again!! 🙂

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