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How we feed guilt to our kids?

How we feed guilt to our kids? Shocked to know that, but it's true. Learn how what we eat and what we give our kids to eat makes or breaks their health. #firsttimemommy #guiltfeeding #childnutrition #healthandwellness

How we feed guilt to our kids

The other day as I was filling up my daughter’s snack box with khakhras, she came up to me and said, ‘Mama, I don’t want khakhra.”

She loves khakhras. Surprised, I asked her why.

“Because, I want biscuits.”

“Who brings biscuits?”

“X brings biscuits daily. I want biscuits too.” She sulked.  A few days ago, it was a similar request for chocolates.

Packaged cereal, biscuits, breads and chocolates are tempting. Why shouldn’t they be?  After all, they are made up of three very addictive things: Refined flour (maida), sugar and salt. And also three very poisonous things. Yes, refined flour, sugar and salt are called white (or slow) poisons in Ayurveda.

My question is that do these mommies not know? How feeding instant noodles and biscuits daily to your child help anyway? Once-in-a-while treats are okay, everyone needs a change. But let’s not make it a daily affair.

There was this colleague of mine. Every evening, she took a bar of chocolate for her daughter. “I love the look on my daughter’s face when she sees the chocolate,” she says.  Dear mother, it is not love that you see, but your guilt.

Many working mothers resort to guilt treating their kids. Just think for a moment – how can chocolates, cookies or such junk treats replace you? They can’t – so stop feeling guilty and stop guilt feeding them.

Then there are mothers who I come across with alarming frequency who feed their child with packaged juices and biscuits. They are satisfied that though their child didn’t finish his dinner, at least he had a pack of fruit juice and biscuits.

Children as young as two years are vulnerable to obesity. Hypertension and kidney damage linked to high sodium content in daily diet and cardiovascular diseases related to poor lifestyle are spreading like an epidemic in our society. What kind of future are we giving to our kids?

Packaged cereal seems like an ideal breakfast or snack for your child. However, learn that they are so full of sugar, that they should be in the chocolate/biscuit aisle of the supermarket. –

Biscuits and breads have refined carbohydrates and trans-fat.

Packaged fruit juices. One might think that they are feeding their child something healthy. In reality, it’s not. A 200ml pack of orange juice, contains about 17g sugar, the equivalent of more than four teaspoons. Do you give that much sugar to your child normally?

How we feed guilt to our kids? Shocked to know that, but it's true. Learn how what we eat and what we give our kids to eat makes or breaks their health. #firsttimemommy #guiltfeeding #childnutrition #healthandwellness

How we feed guilt to our kids

The bottom line is – What you eat is what your child will eat. Now you can choose what you want for your child. Serve home cooked foods to your child. He will thank you for it later. Don’t feed guilt to your child.

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  1. Bhawna

    You are good. Please do keep blogging, your content is very helpful and yet not preachy.

    • Thanks Bhawna for stopping by my blog. Your comment is invaluable. Though I am a bit tied down with work, I do not intend to stop blogging.
      Thanks for the motivation. Cheers!!!

  2. Bang on. Kids will ask for biscuits and chocolates. We can’t resist these being adults so it’s natural they will ask. And you rightly said that once in a while is fine but why daily. Also I feel Why to feel guilty if you are a working parent and feed your child unhealthy food. You might be working for your personal growth but it’s also that the child has a secured life. The child should know that as well.

    • mammaspeaks

      Hey, Aesha, thank you so much. It’s not wrong to give biscuits and chocolates to kids once in a while, but we should be aware that it’s processed/junk, etc. My angst is with the people who think they are actually good for kids. And absolutely, you are working for your own development and for the betterment of the family, there is no guilt involved. The chidl should know that!

  3. You are right Anshu. I too say many people same way. Once a while is fine not daily. I m working mother but dont entertain such things to please my son. Occassionally i do and try all ways to minimise it. Every parents should understand this and care about longer healthiness.

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Shilpa. I am so glad that there are other mothers who feel the same way about this subject. We all eat chocolates, Maggi and kurkure, it’s fine once in a while, but let our child know it’s still junk and not OK to eat regularly.

  4. Many moms don’t wish to do the hard work of feeding healthy to their kids. Cookies, juices, and chocolates come in handy for the busy moms today. Wonder if they really feel guilty about it?
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    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Shivangi. I cited a few examples of working mothers but coincidentally, I came across them. However, I know a lot of SAHM or work from home mothers who do the same. We need awareness in the society, that nothing replaces freshly made food.

  5. A very interesting topic di…m learning..?

    • mammaspeaks

      Take your time, Neethu, one day at a time. I know it’s a lot to process, and to change our habits overnight. But it will happen with more awareness! 🙂

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