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8 Lessons for parents raising a single child

Raising an only child is no walk in the park; it comes with only child problems. These are 8 lessons for parents raising a single child. #firsttimemommy #raisinganonlychild #activitiesforonlychild #onlychildproblems #raisingasinglechild

8 lessons for parents raising a single child

Most parents of my generation have at least one or two siblings. However, for whatever reasons known best to them, many of those same parents have decided to have only one child. I am raising an only child, while I have two siblings. There are days when I am happy with my choice and then there are days when I wish she had siblings to play and fight with. Because I have learnt that raising a single child is no walk in the park; it comes with its own set of concerns. Here are 8 lessons for parents raising a single child or who are contemplating raising an only child.

Raising an only child is no walk in the park; it comes with only child problems. These are 8 lessons for parents raising a single child. #firsttimemommy #raisinganonlychild #activitiesforonlychild #onlychildproblems #raisingasinglechild

8 Lessons for parents raising a single child

Make your child independent – Without a younger sibling to look after, most parents think they should try their utmost to make their kids comfortable. That means they continue doing chores for their child even when he is old enough to do them himself. So instead of setting his school bag, parents would do it for him or decide which clothes the child should wear. Love is a good reason for helping your child, but not good enough to make him dependant on you for basic chores too. Click To TweetHe has to, one day, step out in the real world where you won’t be around setting things right for him.

Don’t be blind to your child’s faults – One of the only child problems is that parents don’t readily accept that their child is anything less than perfect. She might be an only child and the apple of your eye, but she is still a child and vulnerable to all age-specific behaviour. She can throw a tantrum, bully other kids, lie and steal – these are some of the behaviour traits kids show and it is alright. However, believing that your only child cannot exhibit these traits or ignoring them is not alright. Acknowledge and accept your child’s fault and shortcomings and deal with them to the best of your knowledge.

Enrol in extracurricular activities – Raising an only child can be physically and mentally draining. There are no siblings to take the focus away from you or make things easier for you. Enrol your child in a few extracurricular activities that challenge him physically and mentally. These classes will also give him the opportunity to make new friends and interact with people his age.

Spend one on one time with your child – Single child means you won’t have to worry about sibling rivalry or fights. However, having a sibling ensures that your child always has a playmate ready. Give more time to your child so that he is not lonely. – talk to him about his day and what is happening in his life. You have the opportunity to be close to your child which sometimes might not happen with multiple kids in the house. Try to remember how much quality time you parents gave you when you were a child.

Teach your child to share – My daughter refused to share her toys and candies with others. She assumed what came into the house was automatically hers and hers alone. We knew we had to change this mindset. So we asked her to share things with us, her nanny and her friends. Initially she was not comfortable, but when she saw her parents sharing with each other, she learnt. Also, some wisdom comes with age. As they grow up, they realise that when they don’t share, their friends are not willing to play with them. And the consequence is that they would be playing alone.

Encourage your child to read – In our residential building, there are 30 apartments, but only four kids. With one child being the norm these days, you will hardly find many children playing in the apartment complex. With fewer neighbours to play, encourage your child to read and make friends with books. I believe that a child who likes to read books is never alone. Click To Tweet

Stick to your rules – With one child you might not think about setting a dinner table and end up eating in front of the television or don’t think twice before changing your clothes before her. But don’t let that happen. Rules are rules – whether you have one or multiple children in the house. Rules hold discipline in the house, if you let the rules become slack, it might confuse the child.

Invest in your future – Most parents raising an only child worry about their future. They either worry something might happen to their child or worry what will happen when they grow old. It is not unusual to tie your hopes and dreams to your single child, but it is certainly not healthy. Click To Tweet

  • Be practical. You cannot live in a constant fear of what might happen.
  • Invest in yourself and your future.
  • Shape your career.
  • Exercise and keep yourself healthy.
  • Create a good circle of friends and engage in a hobby.

Things to do while raising a single child:

  • Expand your social circle. Arrange play dates for your child. It will help him enhance his social skills.
  • Bring home a pet, if possible, for your child. Pets can prove to be wonderful companions for your child.
  • Let your child play alone for a while. Playing alone is not a punishment; it opens up his imagination and creative skills. Click To Tweet
  • With no siblings, encourage your child to forge deeper and meaningful relations with his neighbours and classmates. You don’t always have to be related by blood to have long lasting relationships.
  • Parents become very cautious when they have a single child. Avoid following your kids like a shadow. Let them live their life their way.

Hope the above 8 Lessons help you in raising a happy and independent single child.

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126 Comments

  1. Nicely written and for all of us with single child a perfect checklist. Indeed these are changing times and single child has become a norm. We have all grown up with our siblings and so many kids around us, gone are the days. With so many options around, difficult to find the kids in the out playing and most glued to the gadgets.

    Yes, it is important to know what to do but equally important to know what not to for our child, especially being over protective of them and doing what he or she needs to do,makes the child dependent and mostly we do it unknowingly and we need to be careful about this very act of ours. Sharing is something they resist as they are possessive of things and they get more attached to it. Cultivating their reading habits is so essential for that we need to be with books, they do what they see us with and talking about the reading that we have done…

    #MyFriendAlexa, #MakeupReads

    • mammaspeaks

      Well said, Nihar! Single child has become a norm so it is necessary that the parenting styles change a bit to accommodate that.

  2. Well written anshu. I raised a single child and god the struggles i had to face is unexplainable. Yes, agree that if books are the child’s friend, they are not alone. In my case for a long time, i will be reading out to him and he will be listening. Whether he enjoyed, i loved the reading habit. I was his friend, philosopher and guide being the only child. He was also the only indian biy in most of his schooling years. So imagine the plight of me. But this really had an adv too. We discuss anything and everything. We are friends and then parents for him. This is a lovely read anshu.

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Deepa. These are the struggles that I face too, so can imagine what you must have gone through too. But I am happy to learn that there is a stronger parent-child bonding when you have a single child. My daughter till date shares everything and sometimes exhibit such sentiments which take me by surprise and warm me to the core.

  3. Well written anshu. I raised a single child and god the struggles i had to face is unexplainable. Yes, agree that if books are the child’s friend, they are not alone. In my case for a long time, i will be reading out to him and he will be listening. Whether he enjoyed, i loved the reading habit. I was his friend, philosopher and guide being the only child. He was also the only indian biy in most of his schooling years. So imagine the plight of me. But this really had an adv too. We discuss anything and everything. We are friends and then parents for him. This is a lovely read anshu.

  4. I so agree with you, Anshu. Raising a single child isn’t easy. Sometimes, I have to be his bro and be his partner in crime 😋 and be his sis and tie rakhi on rakshabandhan.
    Good post and valuable lessons.

    • mammaspeaks

      Haha, I loved that Priya about tying rakhi, and why not! We are the first protectors of our kids!!

  5. Loved your thoughts…
    My kids are 7 years apart. It was tough and easy having a single child.
    Tough, because kid has no one to play with, they demand your attention…
    Easy, no competition.

    When the second baby came in, we were not prepared for the jealousy, possessiveness, fights, tears… But now we have managed to bond together as a family… Finally.

    Parenting is tough, and sweet…at the same time

    • mammaspeaks

      You said it, Latha! Parenting is tough, but it has its sweet moments too. Am glad you got to enjoy both phases – single child one and then sibling rivalry. 🙂

  6. Interesting lessons… though I am now not connected with parenting.

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  7. A very well written article. Great tips.

  8. Though you have written for a single child, it holds good for multiples as well. Great post Anshu.

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Vartika! Yes, I agree, these points could go very well for multiples too! <3

  9. Nice one. I think 2 child policy is good bcs kids learn to share and adjust. But single child concept is becoming more norms due to the financial and other diff i think. Thats just my view.

    • mammaspeaks

      The single child concept is taking off because of nuclear set up, financial burden, etc. Hence, the dilemma of bringing up a single child like the old fashioned way. 🙂

  10. Well written. Single child has become synonymous with spoilt child syndrome these days so your post should be very helpful to single child parents.

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Lavanya! Absolutely, single child shouldn’t be spoilt just because he is single. You can love the child and still not spoil him or raise him to be independent. 🙂

  11. This is a great leassons we all should stick to raise an independent child

  12. These were some great insights Anshu and I agree with most of the points. Life is more difficult for a single child especially when both the parents work. Incase there are siblings, the child feels that she can identify with the sibling as sailing in the same boat and the elder one generally takes charge.

    • mammaspeaks

      Thanks Anupriya! I agree life is more difficult for a single child especially when parents work and it is a nuclear family set up. With 2 kids, they both play, fight and share their feelings. As the eldest of the 3 siblings, I took care of my siblings whenever parents were not around, this is something my daughter will miss.

  13. jaya1966

    Myself and my wife are raising a single child too, We have a daughter who is in the 7th grade now. We were also over-protective of our daughter initially but soon realized she has to face the world as you say and we stopped being over-protective and that worked wonders. This article is very relevant to me. #MyFriendAlexa #JaiSReads

    • mammaspeaks

      I think there comes a time in every parent’s life when they realise that their child is not small anymore and doesn’t need to be mollycoddled. That is the time when we try to let go of our inhibitions. Parenting is a great learning for adults too, like kids we too learn one day at a time.

  14. Nice tips. I am raising a single child and trust me by the end of the day I am drained out emotionally, mentally and physically. I have so many questions to answer like who do I tie a Rakhi to, when is my sibling coming and all. But yes i refrain from doing her chores and encourage her to do the same. Until a month back I used to follow her to the park but now I have stopped doing that and I can see a difference in her confidence. We also got a pet for her and she loves reading .. so now am a bit relaxed.
    #MyFriendAlexa

    • mammaspeaks

      Thanks Shubra. The questions are infinite, thankfully she is now no more interested in a sibling since my brother had his second child. For her, the baby is now her sibling. So pressure off me. LOL. Anyway, good for your daughter that you got her a pet. I am not very fond of pets, so that option is off my list. 🙂

  15. I’m a single child and I know that struggle and pain. Sometimes single child will turn stubborn because of over-care or lack of friendship. You have gathered everything that needs to be said!

    • mammaspeaks

      I agree Sanjota. I know a few single child people who I feel are emotionally lacking, I don’t know if it’s because of the parenting or just because of the fact that they are single children.

  16. I am a single child and so is my toddler. I doubt if I would have preferred it to be any other way. The only time that I felt lonely was during bhai dooj. Otherwise 364 days of the year I was a happy child. Having said that, I do agree with most of the mentioned points, specially the one related to sharing.

    • mammaspeaks

      My younger brother made his importance felt on rakhi and bhai dooj days! I would be so pissed off and till date, I am uncomfortable with these two festivals. 🙂

  17. Very apt post for the parents who raise a single child. I am also a single child of my parents. Though everything else is OK, but I really struggle to-date to gain that independence. My mother wants me to be independent, but at the same time she also won’t let me do things on my own. Sometimes I really get confused what she wants.

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Dr. Shivangi for opening your heart here. I can understand the confusion because that tug of war every parent of single child experiences. I give a chore to my daughter and then sometimes I start helping her, which totally negates my idea of making her independent. We are all learning little by little every day. 🙂

  18. I am a single child, raising a single child. One advice my dad gave me and which is one parenting mantra I live by and which made me independent. He always said, Í will guide you, tell you what is in your best interests but you make your own decisions. If you are wrong, I will correct you. Yet if you feel you are right, make your decision but take responsibility of the same as well. Do not tell me later that I didnt warn you.
    I keep repeating this to Mishti all the time. Now that she is nine years, she understands the importance of making independent decisions. She needs to make her own choices, we have always given her the freedom. Sometimes when I feel she is making the wrong choiuce, I give her two options to choose from, but let her make the mistake of making the wrong choice and learning from it.
    If we keep protecting the child, irrespective of being parents to single child or more, they will not grow to be responsible people. We need to be concious of the same while raising outr children.
    I liked your article and its a good tip to keep child involved in extra currricular activities. That wiol also make them socially active. Generally due to nuclear family set up, kids nowadays do not have social skills, thus the need to expose them more socially.
    Very well written article.

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Aesha! Your father is a very wise man! Taking a wrong decision is not bad (because noone deliberately takes a wrong decision), but owning it up is more important. And yes kids have to be raised to be independent. I liked your way – giving two options – this will help kids take the right choice and also they will gain confidence because they took the decision themselves. 🙂

  19. So nicely you have written this post, we should let our kids know the importance of sharing …

  20. Great insights and very apt points mentioned by you.

  21. I’m one of two kids but we have a single child and yes, that was more by circumstance than by choice. But not a day goes by when I am not grateful for the presence of this incredible child in my life. She has taught me so much as I have taught her.

    I love your tips because it quite simply means that the way we bring up our kids is what matters, in the end. Not whether they are single kids or part of siblings.

    Especially can relate to the part about a kid who reads being never alone. 🙂

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Shailaja! I have 2 younger siblings and what a great time we had growing up – fights, teasing, etc. Though my daughter will miss all of that, I am glad that I share a close relationship with daughter. And yes you are right, whether it’s a single child or multiple children at home, what matters is the way we bring them up. 🙂

  22. I have two kids . My hubby want single child as he himself was single child whereas I am with 2 more sibling. i always prefer two children, enjoy sibling love. finally have two kids and your mention tips are great.

    • mammaspeaks

      Gurjeet, glad you have two kids, some of the things that we single child parents go through you will never experience, however, I am sure you have your own set of issues! Sibling rivalry is there, but love between siblings is heart warming too.

  23. Incredible post Anshu and what a worthy one. I have a single child and myself have a sibling like you. The teething issues of raising a single child are way too many and I hear you that we have to lead by example for them and don’t follow them like shadow.

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Roma! Sometimes I feel our parents did it more effortlessly, while we think so much – what is right and what is wrong for our kids. Am glad you liked the post!! 🙂

  24. Loved this post as we have a single child and want him to inculcate the habits of sharing all the more. #mommyinmereads

  25. great post, as single child norm is growing it’s good to know how to cope with it. thatnks for the tips

  26. This is so relevant to me. I am raising a single child, yet I know how much I rely on my own sister for every little thing. The constant worry of what might happen is exactly how you have mentioned it. And as you mentioned about extra-curricular activities too, we enrolled our son in a daycare right from the time he was 1 year old so that he has company his own age. Yet I sometimes feel I will never be completely at peace with our decision

    • mammaspeaks

      Mahak, when my daughter was 4 years old, I had too enrolled her into a daycare though I was a work from home mother, just because she could get some play time with peers. I felt guilty too and was asked “But you are at home?” But, then I reasoned better to play with friends than watch TV at home. I think just because we are raising a single child, we sometimes get more demanding of ourselves. 🙂

  27. very apt post since its becoming a norm these days to have a single child.

  28. A informative post for moms having single kids. It is always a wee bit difficult to inculcate all the values in single kids.

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you and I agree with you, it’s more difficult to inculcate those values in a single child.

  29. I think raising a single child is a very difficult job, given that they are lot more stern to manage.

  30. I’m a single child… so is my husband.. and we also have one. Can relate to your blog.

  31. Anagha Yatin

    Anshu one of the things that I adore about you is your maturity and mindfulness. And this post endorses my belief further. I specially liked it when you said, “It is not unusual to tie your hopes and dreams to your single child, but it is certainly not healthy” I have many friends who have opted for a single child and have seen their ways of parenting. I always wondered whether by being over protective or by expecting everything from one child, were they not killing the child in one way? I think I must share your post with most of them…

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Anagha for your kind words and your honesty! I am not very matured, just trying to be with each passing day. 🙂 I understand what you are saying, I have seen that kind of parenting too, and I must admit there are times when even I commit those mistakes. Do share Anagha if they don’t feel it’s too obvious a finger at them! LOL!

  32. Prerna Wahi

    Now here’s something many of us need. Very useful tips and love your non judgemental and honest writing. We connect totally. Thanks for sharing this one!

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Prerna! We connect totally on many things – like our writings! I like yours too immensely! 🙂

  33. My son was the only child until recently. But when he was 7, we knew he needed a sibling. Better late than never 🙂 I can totally relate to the concerns you’ve raised. Sometimes we get overprotective about our children especially if we have just one. It’s not worth it; not for kids!

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Medha! You said it right – it’s not worth it – for the kids! We as parents should understand that. 🙂

  34. These are some insightful points, Anshu. I am a parent to a single child and I can clearly understand every single point you have mentioned 🙂

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Meenakshi! These are some issues we face daily! I am glad it resonates well with you, Meenakshi! 🙂

  35. Well written article. I have seen parents of single child become too possessive. Since they gave undivided attention to the child, they don’t want to let go even when the child had grown up.
    Nowadays single child families are a norm. There are certain advantages of having only one child, but at the same time parents have to be careful not to spoil the child.

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Vandana and I agree with you, that parents have to be careful not to spoil the child.

  36. RwallR some excellent point taken mentioned there. Like.. making the single child understand the importance of sharing.. really very important..

  37. Lovely points. Very well.written.
    #sindhureads #myfriendalexa

  38. It is purely a couple’s decision to have one child or more. Every set of parenting has it own challenges yetthe parents are capable of raising their child in every situation.

    • mammaspeaks

      Exactly Geethica, it’s a parents’ prerogative to decide whether they want to have one or more children. My post stresses on the fact what parents should do if they are raising a single child.

  39. Well written and thought out points Anshu. It is the need of the hour.I have seen parents spoiling their single child with lots of pampering. #wordsmithkaurreads

  40. Your post is quite detailed for single parents… Totally worth it. From what I read, I liked the fact you mentioned about accepting that they will make mistakes and are not perfect. enhancing their social skills is very important.

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Lancelot…glad you could relate to the lessons! Agree, social skills of single child often lack and this is something parents should tackle in their own smart way.

  41. Very well written article! While we may mollycoddle a single child and pamper him silly, it could land up doing more harm than good. It’s important to make him independent and give him enough space to think for himself and involve in activities. I agree with all that you’ve written. You’ve blanketed every topic expansively.
    Cheers!

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Dipali. As you said, while we may think we are just loving our child, it has a negative effect on the child – because more often than not as a result the child is either pampered or is not independent as an adult. 🙂

  42. My brother and my SIL have one child each. And, most of the things you mentioned here are just what we keep encouraging them to do. Learning to share is something that comes naturally to both the kids and I am so happy about it. We had a pet dog, so SIL’s son took care of him as his elder brother and is now extra caring towards animals and kids younger than him. Only thing is he needs to learn to socialise. He needs to be coaxed to mingle freely and make new friends.

    • mammaspeaks

      Single child may find it difficult to socialise with lack of community around them, but it is not always the case. My 7-year old daughter is a chatterbox and becomes comfortable with people instantly, however, that may change as she grows up, that’s what I need to take care of. Pets is a wonderful idea Shilpa – if only I could be comfortable around them.

  43. I am not prepared for a second child and your post was quite encouraging. Thanks

    Rashmi

    • mammaspeaks

      Hi Rashmi, glad you liked my post, thank you! Whether you have a single child or decide later to have a second, these lessons will stand by you in both situations. Good luck dear! 🙂

  44. this post is really impressive the tips are good for all parents

  45. When there is just one child, it could lead to extreme situations of caring too much or being careless. You have covered all points for both the situations.

  46. All the points mentioned by you in the post are applicable to all parents irrespective of the fact that they are raising child alone or with a partner as only a parents knows how hard parenting is these days…lovely write up

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you so much. I agree these points could very well apply themselves to parents raising multiples.

  47. Very well written points. Knowingly or unknowingly we as parent’s become over-protective in case of single child and all our focus is on them. With all the love and admiration we should remember the key thing to make our kids independent! Great post.

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Surabhi! Yes I agree, raising kids to be independent is of utmost importance.

  48. This post is so apt for what I am going through. Having an only child it sometimes gets so difficult to engage and keep him occupied. It is physically and emotionally draining. But I do try to mak him independent and am looking for extra curricular activities. Playdates are of a big help. This school holiday I spent time iwth a friend who has a kid of same age and it was one of the best days in a long time. I realised I should do it more often.

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Nayantara. As parents we are always stressed – whenever holidays come up, I am thinking of how to keep my daughter engaged. Playdates are a big help though. 🙂

  49. I am a single child myself and have a single child too. I try to spend a lot of one on one time with my 3 yr old because i know he would want to be engaged in activities.

    • mammaspeaks

      Yes, true that! With single child, parents need to spend more time. It’s fun too and parents can know their child well.

  50. Dr. Surbhi Prapanna

    Very well written post Anshu. and you had covered all points so wonderfully that will help a lot to all parents who are raising single child. personally, I believe raising one or more than one kids have their own ups and downs. and its all depend on how well we handel the situations? #Surbhireads #Myfriendalexa

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Surbhi. I agree, whether one or more children, both have their pros and cons and it all actually depends on how well the parents handle the situations.

  51. Whether it’s a single child or more than one, it has its own challenges. Being parents, we generally end up burdening our kids with our own set of aspirations. Give them a space to breathe. At the same time, don’t ignore their faults. Let’s not make it a rat race. Every kid is different with her /his own set of capabilities. Let them play, make mistakes and grow at their own pace. Beautiful write up Anshu regarding the lessons to be imparted for raising a happy and independent child.

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Rashmi! Agree with you – we raise a child thinking that he or she will carry out our dreams. That child is an individual not your extension! I hope parents learn that soon!

  52. I have seen parents being blind to their child’s faults. It’s crucial to help the child recognize his own faults and help self reflect very early in life.

  53. Raising a single child is really a challenging task. Your guidelines for the parents are quite useful.
    Thanks for sharing:)

    • mammaspeaks

      Thanks Aditi! Parenting is indeed a challenging task, and it gets tougher with every day! 🙂

  54. I can so relate to each and every word in this post. Raising a single child is a full time job in itself.

  55. As a mom to a single child and with no plans to have another I relate to this so well. 2 days ago a relative was asking me “don’t you want to have another so that Angel will have company?” I find this strange because to be honest I see so many people around who have siblings but are not close to them. You never know where life will take you as you grow older and whether the bonds we forge will stay for life just because we are connected by blood?. Lovely post Anshu

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Akshata! I am close to 40, and I still get questions you should get a sibling for your daughter – even from the male gynec who delivered my daughter, while my female gynec says – let them say. It’s not they who have to bring up your child. LOL. And I agree with you, we see enough siblings who fight when they grow up over money and property. I don’t want that kind of stress upon me in my twilight years. 🙂

  56. Some really wise words there Anshu. A must read for all the new parents out there. I like the way you have organised your blog.
    #MyFriendAlexa #ContemplationOfaJoker #Jokerophilia

  57. This is such a great list. I follow Al except the first one. Now I understand the importance of it. And will implement from now onwards.

  58. such a relieving post. I am suffering from this whether to go for a second child or not thing? I am so confused. Even my second post for #myfriendalexa is about this confusion. I am glad that already I am doing what you suggested. and after reading this post I think I am going in right direction.

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Mann. People say that parenting gets a lot easier with second child around, so just think about it or ask parents who are raising two or more kids. However, the rules are more or less the same about raising kids to be independent. Good luck girl! 🙂 You are doing great!

  59. Haimanti

    Fantastic points raised ….I try to follow all of them…I think we can make a single child Mom clan 🙂

    • mammaspeaks

      Thanks Haimanti! Sure, but I can assure you there will be lots of mothers in that clan!! 😉

  60. Neha Sharma

    I have a single child and I am totally with you on the lessons you have shared for raising a single child. Well explained and really insightful!

  61. Thoughtfully written post Anshu. Till now I am raising one child and am unsure he would ever get a sibling. Though he have cousins, but we don’t stay together. I totally agree with raising them towards independence and organizing play dates. Raising kid is always challenging. Great points.

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Pragnya! I agree raising kids is always challenging. Whether you are bringing up one or ten, Kids I believe should be raised to be independent. Good luck, Pragnya, whether you raise one child or decide to bring a sibling for your first born. 🙂

  62. Thank you so much for this! I have been trying to convince my sister that it isn’t the best idea to cater to her every need or tantrum. Sending this to her in the hopes she listens to you.

    • mammaspeaks

      Thanks Arjun! Whether one or four kids, pampering and catering to their every need or tantrum is still not a good idea. I am sure she will understand this! 🙂

  63. I think the preference change from generation to generation. Earlier generations preferred more children but this generation think one is enough. I agree with all the points you mentioned specially don’t be blind at your child’s faults. It often happens when you are raising the only child. Great post.

    • mammaspeaks

      Thank you Paresh. Earlier generations had more kids for various reasons – they needed farm hands, infant mortality rate was higher so ofcourse more kids would mean more living kids at the end of the day, etc. Thankfully, we don’t have those issues anymore. I agree, spoiling your child happens a lot with single kids.

  64. Points 1 and 8 … Absolutely essential… I am an only child and am raising one too….resonated so much with me…. BTW small world…chillies and porridge… Remember… Good to connect

    • mammaspeaks

      Oh wow, so you are the one behind chillies and porridge..!! Thank you so much Esha..that was an awesome book to share!! Hugs!! 🙂

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