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I loved the sweet breath of my newborn, her soft down of hair and the pink candyfloss cheeks. As she is growing up, I like to tell her stories, braid her hair and talk to her nineteen to a dozen. But mommyhood is not only made up of candy sweet and frankincense moments, it has its share of ‘why did I choose to be a mommy’ moments too. There are times when I feel like throwing in the towel and shouting, “I quit!” But that’s the thing about being a mommy, you can never quit. However, to keep my sanity alive, I do take a mommy break from time to time. These are my moments and a way of saying, “I love and care for myself!”
However, before telling you how I take a mommy break, I should tell you the feelings that I went through the first time (and sometimes still do) I took a break:
Guilt: I am a mommy and I am not supposed to break free of my own flesh and blood. I am a bad mommy to leave my child. I stay away from my kids all day long, I don’t deserve a break. My husband works so much while I stay at home, how can I expect him to take care of my kids while I party?
Trepidation and worry: How will my child manage without me? What if she falls down and gets hurt? What if she doesn’t get food on time? What if she watches more TV than the specified screen time?
Jealousy: What if my child gets too attached to the caregiver? What if she forgets me in my absence?
Yes, as silly as these above-mentioned scenarios sound, they do happen. The only trick is to break free of them. You need to tell yourself – You are not a superhuman, you are not a machine. Even machines get a break. You need it, you DESERVE a mommy break!
So, here are 6 ways to take a mommy break without feeling guilty:
Go for a walk: Exercising is the first step in selfcare. Exercise makes your body stronger and disease-free. Yoga and meditation help cleansing your mind of negativity and make you a more positive soul. You feel refreshed and rejuvenated and can resume your responsibility with more energy and positivity.
Go for a short 15-mins jog or walk in the morning and evening or whenever you feel the going is getting tough. Instead of giving your child a Time-Out, I feel it’s better you take a time out and go for a walk. It will sweep away all the cobwebs of anger, frustration and pathos.
Pack your bag and take a hike: I like day-long trekking excursions in the lap of nature. Every step is focused on my survival and in those exhilarating moments, I am neither a mother nor a wife, I am just a living person.
If trekking and hiking are not your cup of tea, you can organise a fun day-long picnic or overnight trips. Take a solo trip – there are many groups who organise solo trips for women or form your own group of friends and explore a new place.
Create a kitchen garden: This will come as a surprise to most, but working in the mud releases all your stress. Plant your favorite herbs and flowers and see them growing like your own children, just little less demanding. ?
Caring for them, watering them, pruning them and seeing them bloom give you a new high, trust me! Oh, BTW, I talk to them too. I tell them about my day, sing songs to them and even encourage them to grow. And no, I am not a loony bin, it actually works. ?
Organise a girls’ night out: As much as I love my family, I need a healthy dose of my girl gang. Yes, they are my vitamin. While parenting demands of me to weigh my words before I speak and think twice before I act, being with my girlfriends help me cut loose of these self-imposed dictates of parenthood. I am just a girl who can talk freely and be silly. Meeting my girls for a movie or drinks is one of the best ways to take a break from mommyhood.
Take a coffee break: Now, we all don’t have time or resources to be able to take a full day mommy break. In such a scenario, short breaks help. When my daughter becomes too hot to handle, I leave her to whatever she feels like doing at the moment while I make some coffee or my special Indian spiced tea. I sit by my favourite spot – my window garden and literally smell the coffee. Sipping a hot beverage while taking in the greenery and fresh blooms calm my mind. If masala chai or coffee is not your poison, you can prepare lemonade, fresh vegetable or fruit juice or even a cup of green tea and take it to your zen place with a book of your choice.
Watch some idiot box: As much as I love reading, I love watching TV too, and my latest obsession is NetFlix. I have found so many unique drama, crime thrillers and sitcoms that it takes care of my midday blues. Whenever I need a time out, TV and NetFlix come to my rescue.
Listen to podcasts: Of late, I have started listening to podcasts. And I find them wonderful. Create a library of your favourite podcasts and listen to them as and when you feel like taking a break. You can find everything on there – from self-help and selfcare tips to inspirational stories, music, news and politics.
If you like listening to music, I find it is a wonderful way to clear up some head space and lift up your spirit.
How to get a mommy break in the middle of a day?
Fix at least a couple of breaks for yourself every day. It is just like how you schedule your child’s feed, you just need to schedule these breaks for yourself. Take a break when your child is taking his afternoon nap, watching TV, doodling, doing her homework or when she is in an extra-curricular class. Also, explain to your child the concept of mommy breaks and how important taking these breaks are for mommy – for her health. To a child of 5 and above, you can also ask not to disturb you during your mommy break. Believe me, they will understand.
Refrain yourself from checking your What’sapp or other social media handles, because it takes away quite a bit of time and you will realise your break is over even before you started doing the things you intended to.
These are 6 ways to take a mommy break without feeling guilty. However, this is what I do. You don’t necessarily have to do the same things. Find out what interests you, what calms you and makes you happy. It can be crocheting, painting, writing a journal, getting a mani-pedi or head massage or even tidying up your house. Everything is valid as long as it gives you a positive break from mommyhood and rejuvenates you.
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